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April 26, 2011 By The Breakthrough Coach
What I Need To Survive – How About You?
A Healthy Self-Esteem, and how to get it.

I don’t know about the rest of you, but what I need to keep myself functioning at a high level so that I am able to give the best of myself to my children, grandchildren, family and friends, is a good dose of acceptance, accountability, affection, affirmation, appreciation, approval and attention, which I call the 7 ‘A’s’. When I am full of these 7 ‘A’s’ I am then also, able to give to all my clients, what they need, so that they can then make the changes or better yet, ‘transform’ themselves into who they were meant to be.

4 ‘A’s’ of Love
Acceptance –
Can you imagine going through life feeling that you are not accepted just as you are, and not getting that unconditional love we all deserve, for just being who we are. Imagine trying hard in all areas of your life, doing the best you possibly can, yet still not getting that acceptance that you should feel and have just for being you. I want that unconditional Love, just for being me, without bending over backwards to do for and please others, knowing that in the end, it won’t make a difference – WHY? – because I need to be the one who first accepts myself unconditionally, and so do you. When we accept ourselves, truly accept ourselves just as we are, so will everyone else, as it all starts with accepting the one you see in the mirror. You
Accountability –
Responsibility for our actions. A feeling that we are trusted and that people around us are trustworthy and that we can count on them and they can count on us. We all feel good when we are trusted, and it makes it much easier to trust in return. When we hold ourselves accountable we develop a sense of responsibility to ourselves and each other.
Affection –
Did we get it as a child, and do we get it now? Does it impact on our lives now, and what can we do about it now, if we were starved of that affection during the imprint period, between 0 – 7. It is during this time when we are like sponges, we absorb and accept everything around us as the truth, and if our caregivers were not around or too busy with their own agenda, we may have been starved of that affection – that critical key to our survival, that may have impinged emotionally and physically, because without affection we do not thrive the way we should. Between 7 – 14 is the modeling period, where we copy people around us, and depending on how affectionate the people around us were during those years, will also determine how affectionate we become to others and also to ourselves.
Affirmation –
Imagine going through life with a strong yearning to help ones less fortunate than yourself. Imagine this as a gift from childhood, something that you didn’t need to learn, as it was a part of you, and all you wanted to do was help people who were less fortunate than you. There will come a point in your life where you will question your motives and your purpose if there hasn’t been that expression of acceptance in the form of an affirmation. Someone telling you that you did good and that you were on the right track.
Appreciation –
Relates to your self-worth, your values, to who you are, not just what you contribute or achieve. Between 14 – 21 is the socialization period where we are largely influenced by our peers, sometimes feeling that we may not measure up and therefore need to contribute and achieve to be appreciated, rather than, be appreciated for who we are, so that we can then go on to contribute and achieve. By being appreciated for who we are first, our value would resonate within and our self-worth skyrocket.
Approval –
Is it I who needs to approve of myself first – whereby approval from those around me will not be necessary, yet highly cherished when received.
Attention –
Do you know that it’s not only children who act up because of lack of attention? Without that important attention in childhood, we grow up to become adults who are desperately deprived of attention, sometimes not even being aware of it on a conscious level. Adults may act up differently to children, but they still act up in one way or another due to a lack of attention, either now or in their past. Find a way to give this attention to yourself and from others to be a more balanced human being. You are important, we are all important, and our feelings and needs are important also. A healthy amount of attention is what makes the world go around.
These are the ‘Seven Motivator’s to our Inner Child which express themselves through our Inner Parent, and our External Selves.

What is happening during a Reconnective Healing session and The Reconnection?

During a Reconnective Healing session, the Reconnective Frequencies support and enhance your ability to come back to a state of balance and harmony with your own nature. Because of the vast spectrum of frequencies provided through which you may connect to your divine nature, the opportunity to balance any number of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and other health challenges is possible. Actively allow the healing process to happen, and healing can occur in an instant.

Through your Personal Reconnection, you will activate your unique potential in this world through the exchange of light and information within the network of Reconnective Frequencies. The Reconnection will unfold at a pace and in a way appropriate to your nature, though you may notice a “life acceleration” or optimization process where opportunities to enhance and expand your life arise as quickly as you allow them to. You are empowered to pursue your life path with the support of this newly activated multidimensional circulatory system.

What is it that I’m feeling during a session?

If we approach the world as a vast interaction of energy vibrating at different rates (much like sound or light)—a symphony of life—then you may describe both the Reconnection and Reconnective Healing as an “attunement” process. Both the Reconnection and Reconnective Healing “tune” you to the broad spectrum of Reconnective Frequencies to allow healing and personal evolution. As each person experiences their own vibrational “signature”—what makes a person that person—so each person’s experience with Reconnective Healing and the Reconnection will be different. Often, even each session is different for the same person.

Some experience deep, profound relaxation. Others report relief from pain or other physical maladies. Others have reported healings from chronic conditions. Some report seeing angels or guides; others experience visions, colors, lights, and sounds they’ve never known before. There is no limitation to what one will or should experience when encountering one’s divine nature. Whatever one experiences (which is sometimes apparently nothing at all), it is perfectly appropriate for who you are now.

How does this compare to other frequencies? How does it differ from the other forms of energy work used now?

In the healing realm, many of the techniques that have stood the test of time function just as well now as they always did. However, humans of the 21st century have are living in a different world than they were a hundred, five hundred or a thousand years ago—we now have more, and we now are more, so the old techniques are no longer enough. As good as they always were, within our new, expanded parameters, they are no longer appropriate—just as lanterns would not be appropriate as headlights on a car, although, for a horse and buggy, they functioned just fine. The limitations these techniques are subject to—requiring the removal of jewelry, the removal of leather, faith on the part of the recipient, protection rituals for both parties involved, etc.—are not present in the new frequencies. Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection are very appropriate to our time and the beings that we have become. By working with the capabilities and structures now emerging in humanity without previous limitations, Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection address who we are now…and introduce us to what we can become.

How many sessions will I need? How long does it take to have a healing?

One visit—perhaps even part of one visit—may be plenty. Generally it is recommended that you consider up to three sessions. And, although each session is special, often something particularly special tends to be reported about session number three.

Healings occur in an instant. What takes “time” is for a person to “decide” to accept the healing. If you receive everything you’re looking for by your first, second or third session, it’s time to let go of any attachment to what happens during the healing sessions and allow things to unfold on their own. If you do not receive anything by your third session, Reconnective Healing may not be the appropriate way for you to receive what you are looking for at this time in your life. Again, you may want to let go and allow whatever might unfold to do so. You may choose to return in three, six, maybe even eighteen months. The only time I might consider a few more sessions is either: a) if a new situation arises for you; or b) if you’ve been experiencing clear, recognizable, consistent improvement over the first three visits and it looks as if there is a little more to go. At that point, I might consider a few more sessions. After that, I would again let go and allow it time to unfold. Reconnective Healing is not about regular visits or “touch-ups.” You do not need to come in for “weekly” sessions or on any kind of an “ongoing” basis. Once you have your session(s), you “own” your change, your healing, your evolution. It’s yours. No one can take it away from you. Ever.

What can I expect during a Reconnective Healing session or The Reconnection? What’s the best way to prepare for it? What can I do to allow it to be most effective?

Your appointment will begin with a short period where you may ask questions about the work we are going to do that day. Following the question and answer period, you will lie down on your back on a massage table fully clothed wearing comfortable clothing; wearing layers may be helpful as some experience a change in temperature (warmer or cooler) when coming into contact with these energies. The work is touch-free: The only portion of the session where I may touch you is at the close of the session to let you know that the session has concluded (though the healing is not necessarily over). We will conclude with a short period where you will have the opportunity to share your experience while on the table to help you recall anything that attracted your attention, and an opportunity for me to share anything that I perceived.

Your appointment for Reconnective Healing will include 30 minutes of table-time; schedule an hour into your day to allow for the opening question and answer period, the healing session, and recall following your session. Each of your appointments for The Reconnection will last slightly longer—give yourself an hour and a quarter to an hour and a half for each appointment.

Every person’s experience with Reconnective Healing is unique. Often healings are reported in an instant in just one session, and sometimes it takes a bit longer for a healing to unfold. If you’re lucky, your healing will come in the form you anticipated; if you’re really lucky, your healing will come in a form you haven’t even thought of, one that the universe has in mind specifically for you.

During your session, lie down on your back on the massage table or whatever other comfortable arrangement we’ve decided on, close your eyes and notice. Just notice. Withdraw your participatory thought process and simply observe when there’s something to notice, as well as when there’s nothing to notice; lie there and let go, as if you simply had a little unexpected rest time.

Healings can come in all forms. The best way to allow for a healing is to proceed in a state of expectancy, without expectation or attachment—the willingness to experience something new. Place yourself on the table, relax, close your eyes and simply notice. Observe. Let there be no difference between the observer and the observed.

I would not suggest that you try to make your mind a blank or try to think of nothing. I suggest that you simply notice whatever it is that brings itself to your attention. This gives you something to do and has a tendency to alleviate the stress often encountered when trying to think of nothing. Observing whatever you perceive as out of the ordinary will give you enough to occupy your mind without getting lost in mental “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts.”

There are no prerequisites to receive Reconnective Healing—no need to breathe a special way, no need for visualization, no need for meditation or mantras, silently or otherwise, and no need to “do” anything else that you or someone else thinks will “help.” Implementing any of these techniques will simply bring about what you are able to do already and distract you from being able to enjoy the fullness and the reality of a new experience. When you are ready to let go of directing or enhancing the experience, when your personality is out of the way sufficiently so you do not attempt to “gild the lily,” you are ready to experience what makes Reconnective Healing different, what makes The Reconnection real.

You are ready to receive.

Has Reconnective Healing had success with (insert specific condition)?

Reconnective Healing has aided in healing health challenges such as cancers, AIDS-related diseases, fibromyalgia, trauma, depression, addictions, and many others. The important concept to understand is that three people can come in with the same diagnosis and the same set of symptoms and receive three different sets of results. Some of the most dramatic healings that Reconnective Healing Practitioners facilitate occur in cases where they know nothing at all about what the client is contending with. As Eric says, “Oftentimes the less the practitioner ‘knows’ about what’s ‘wrong’ with the patient/client, the better off that patient/client is.”

While many people see results that manifest physically in an immediate and permanent fashion, on rare occasion there are some people who do not demonstrate a recognizable response in the beginning. Of these, many do later on, in a few days or a few weeks. And some may not, if it is not appropriate for the person at that time in their life. Most healings tend to be permanent. Some healings demonstrate their fullness immediately; some evolve over time. It is my opinion, shared by Eric, that everyone receives a healing—it just might not manifest in a way recognizable to you at the moment. As you adjust to the state in which the healing places you, the healing becomes more apparent.

What is the difference between Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection?

The difference between Reconnective Healing and The Reconnection is basically one of intent. The intent of Reconnective Healing is essentially that of healing, be it physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or on any other level. And, of course, to achieve the degree of healing brought forth via Reconnective Healing, you will, to some extent, experience Reconnection as part of the process. It’s this “Reconnection” that allows Reconnective Healing to be so dramatically more comprehensive than the healing “techniques” we’ve had up until now.

The intent of The Reconnection is to bring us into the fullness of our inherent connection with the universe. This is done via a two-session experience, commonly referred to as receiving your Personal Reconnection. And, of course, to achieve the degree of reconnection brought fourth via The Reconnection, you will, to some extent, experience healing as part of the process.

And, although the two are not completely separate processes, to obtain the full benefits of each, your Reconnective Healing sessions and your Personal Reconnection sessions are to be experienced on separate occasions.

Does Reconnective Healing only work on physical problems? Will it work on mental and emotional problems as well?

Healing is a return to balance. Every health challenge is a combination of the physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and probably a few other classifications for which we do not have words—we simply classify it according to what we perceive as a predominate characteristic. Reconnective Healing doesn’t specifically “treat” anything. If in its presence you allow yourself to come back into balance, as many people do, then you do. You just do.

Does Reconnective Healing work for animals?

Yes! Reconnective Healing works just as well for our four-legged and feathered friends as it does for humans. Just the same as humans, animals experience a variety of responses to Reconnective Healing—sometimes physical, sometimes emotional, and so on.